Here is the PowerShell method to disable Resource Throttling on a list by list basis:

$webapp = Get-SPWebApplication -Identity "SharePoint Site"
$siteawwu = Get-SPSite http://contoso/sites/abc
$web = Get-SPWeb http://contoso/sites/abc
$largelist = $web.Lists["Large List Test"]
$largelist.EnableThrottling=$false
$largelist.Update()